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My family is changing shape
Separation, a new household, a returning adult child — every role in the system has to be renegotiated.
FamiliesFamily & AuthorityBelonging & RelationshipsTransitions & What's Next
Families
If you are the parent
- 1Co-Parenting Across Two HousesAgreeing the three things that must be consistent, and letting the rest differ.Families
- 2The Boomerang ReturnRenegotiating household terms with an adult who used to be a child here.Families
- 3When Grandparents Undermine Your RulesHolding a boundary with your own parents without turning your child into the battleground.Families
- 4Apologising to an Adult ChildRepairing something from years ago without demanding absolution in return.Families
- 5Screens: The Household AgreementWriting rules that apply to the adults too, which is what makes them survivable.Families
Episodes on this
- In productionThe Intervention Series
7. The Conversation After You Lost Your Temper
With a relational repair coach
- What makes an apology land rather than reopen it?
- Why does explaining yourself undo the repair?
- In productionThe Long Handover
5. The Boomerang Return
With a family systems therapist
- What terms need to change now that they are an adult?
- Who pays for what?
- In productionThe Long Handover
6. Apologising to a Grown Child
With a relational repair coach
- How do you apologise without asking to be forgiven?
- What if they are not ready?
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